Some people tell me they want more contemporary music. Others want more traditional. I’ve learned that I cannot please everyone—but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t feel like rejection when I try and still fall short in someone’s eyes.
Rejection isn’t always big and dramatic. Sometimes it’s a quiet look. A passive comment. A “no thanks” or—more often—no response at all.
I feel it when I pitch myself for podcasts or reach out to potential partners or sponsors for the Profitable Musician brand. I spend time researching, crafting my message, aligning our audiences, and... silence. Sometimes I follow up. Still nothing.
And even though I know better, even though I’ve helped hundreds of women in the music space face these same moments, I still occasionally hear that little voice in my head saying, “Maybe they just don’t think you’re good enough.”
That’s why I created something I call my “positivity bank.” It’s a super simple practice that’s kept me grounded over the years.
Every time I get a kind message, a success story from one of my students, a review on the podcast, a compliment about a service—I save it. I screenshot it. I drop it into a folder or write it on a sticky note.
These moments become my counterbalance. They remind me of what’s true when rejection tries to convince me otherwise.
So for you, if you're working hard to book gigs, sending out email after email, following up multiple times, and getting nothing back, it’s easy to take that silence as a “you’re not good enough,” especially when you’re doing it alone.
Here's a tool to help pull you out of that negative spiral: before doing any outreach, take 15 minutes to rehearse or play music. Not to practice—just to reconnect with why you do what you do.
It lifts your energy. It reminds you that you have something beautiful to offer. It gets you out of scarcity mode and back into your zone.
We all need these kinds of rituals to protect our mindset.
Because if you’re pursuing a life in music or creative entrepreneurship, rejection isn’t a maybe—it’s a guarantee.
You will hear “no.” You will hear nothing. You will hear conflicting opinions that leave you doubting your own instincts.
That’s why I started the Female Musician Academy Accelerator.
I knew that if I was feeling this kind of rejection, even after years in the industry, then so were other women. And I wanted to build a space where we didn’t just talk about strategy, but also about the emotional stuff.
The stuff that gets in your head and makes you want to quit, even when you're doing great work.
Inside, you get structure, support, and community.
Real feedback. Shared experiences. Coaching to help you make decisions, push through resistance, and stop feeling like you’re doing it all wrong just because someone didn’t respond to an email.
So if you’ve been feeling that sting lately, you’re not alone. I want to remind you to spend some time recharging your batteries with positive reviews, fan quotes, "yes" emails and video footage of killer performances you've given.
You’re building something that matters and you need to protect your energy while you do it so you can KEEP building it and don't quit right before your big breakthrough.
Need that kind of encouragement and clarity in your life? We all do. Sometimes our coaching sessions in my female-oriented community are more like therapy sessions. It's whatever each artist needs that day. And sometimes that's simply to remind them that they're valuable no matter what they've heard or seen that week.
