PROFITABLE MUSICIAN: FEM FRIDAY EDITION

November 13, 2026

Happy FEM Music Friday!

So many of you wrote back to wish my daughter Julia well after I told you she was getting married this past weekend. I loved reading your emails. Thank you for being so excited for us! I wanted to tell you how it all went.

We had a few hiccups the day before, but when the wedding day came, everything went the way we’d hoped. Julia looked beautiful, the church was the perfect setting for the service, and the reception was everything we’d spent months planning. By the time we got to the dancing, we could finally let loose and have fun. And we did (especially to Footloose and Uptown Funk!).

I wasn’t originally going to sing at the wedding. Julia was worried it would be too much pressure on me and that I’d be crying too many tears of joy to get through the song. Which, to be fair, was a reasonable concern.

But a couple of months ago I found just the right song, and I decided to sing it. And here's how I knew I could get through it.

About 15 years ago, I sang at the funeral of an uncle I’d been close to my whole life. That’s when I learned that if I let myself cry my way through the song at rehearsal the day before, I could get through it when it counted. So I did the same thing at the wedding rehearsal, and it worked again.

Of course, getting the tears out is only part of it. I’m 54 1/2, and I still work on my voice every week. I still work on my musicianship, my piano playing, even my microphone technique. And yes, sometimes I wonder how much good all that practice is doing at this point.

Then I stood up to sing at my daughter’s wedding. In my mind, this performance was more important than Dodger Stadium or singing at a megachurch. I was nervous, but I knew how to settle myself and trust the voice I’d spent all those years working on. And I got to sing and play the song the way I wanted to sing it for Julia and her husband.

Afterward, I got some wonderful comments. A relative I hadn't seen in a long time said, “You’ve still got it!!”

A few people I’d never met came up to tell me how much they enjoyed the song and how fitting it was for the ceremony and the two of them.

And then my best friend texted me a few days later and said, "I have no idea when my daughter will get married, but whenever it happens, you''' be singing at her wedding, like it or not:)"

Back when Julia could barely see over my merch table, I never imagined I’d get to do this for her. I’m so glad I kept putting in the time.

So if you catch yourself wondering this week whether it’s worth working on that song one more time, think about who might hear it someday. You might get to give somebody a memory they’ll still be talking about years from now. And you might have as much fun giving it to them as I did.

Always in your corner,
​<3 Bree

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