The part that makes me cringe...
that makes me hesitate before opening my notifications.
I’ll see I have comments or DMs waiting for me, and I make the time to sit down, read, and respond. I expect real conversation, because that’s what I’m there for.
But sometimes all I find is a naked Spotify link. No greeting, no context, no words at all. Just a link.
ICK!
It feels like someone walked into a round table discussion, tossed a flyer in the middle, and left. No eye contact, no thank you, no care.
Let me be clear. I truly do want to hear what you’re creating. I love having real conversations on Threads and Instagram. I love reading and replying to thoughtful comments.
But when I’ve just shared something vulnerable, and others are responding with sincerity and depth, it feels jarring and honestly, rude, to have someone do a "drive by" with nothing but a link. It feels shallow.
Worse, it makes me not want to engage. I don’t click the link, and I remember the handle of the person who posted it, but not in a positive light.
The same thing happens in DMs. I open a message expecting a hello or a question or even just a note of appreciation, and instead it’s just a link to a song. That kind of outreach doesn’t invite connection. It sparks annoyance and creates negative vibes for your artist brand.
Here’s what I want you to know. Dropping a bare link isn’t just ineffective. It can actually damage the relationship you’re trying to build. It doesn’t get you the click. It doesn’t get you the listen. And it doesn’t get you remembered in the way you want.
Social media isn’t a megaphone. It’s a conversation. And you don’t start a conversation by shouting “Listen to me!”
So if you want to talk music, or share your story, or ask a question (and NOT drop a naked link which I know you'd never do:), I would love to hear from you.
Comment on my Threads. Send me a DM on IG with a little context. Or subscribe to FEM Friday’s on Substack and leave a note there. And of course, you can always reply to these emails. I read every one, and I try to respond to them all.
Always in your corner,
<3 Bree
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